How to leave your relationship your not happy in is one of the questions some people do ask.
Staying in a relationship your not happy can be so depressing, like why stay in a place where joy is very far from you.
One thing is for sure, the joy and vibe you both had when you started might fade away of you guys don’t find a way to make your relationship work but that’s not our main focus right now.
In this article we would be talking about how to leave your relationship peaceful and be happy to enjoy the other part of your life.
Below are things you should know when your ready to break up that unhealthy relationship.
Be honest to your Ex to be and to yourself
Being host to your ex to be and to your self is one step to being independent. You have go be sure that your ready to break up your relationship before even thinking of going to do it.
In General people want to know why they are being dumped, “your terrible in bed” You lack ambition” “we don’t go the same line” etc
This is being honest. Your ability to tell people their actual fault for dumping them is being honest.
Own your decision.
Before deciding if your truly leaving the relationship, be sure is what you want and own to your decisions. Ending a relationship can be very painful especially when your ending a relationship with someone you really love.
Sometimes you would need the help of those around you with positive activities to get over it.
Before thinking of break ups first of all ask yourself What do I really want? That’s a question that is only you that can answer it.
End it in person
The same way it’s not good to ask someone out on social media is the same way is not good to break up on social media.
Ending your relationship in person is the best because it will give you the opportunity to let the person know your serious.
If you have ever been dumped via text or email, you know how painful it is.
It feels bad to know that your given such a low consideration and he or she don’t bother to do it in person, doing face to face is better maybe in an intimate setting but if you fear the person will be violent, do it in a public place.
Don’t suggest being friends
Suggesting to be friends immediately can be very dangerous, you have to give your ex time to get over the break up.
Give your self at least three month, one year or more. Maybe then you both can reconnect as friends, the pain wont hurt much again.
When you both become friends, try not to make cross boundaries, respect each others Space and time.
If your ex asks “Can we still be friends?”, say, “No, we can’t still be friends. For now, though, I think it’s best we just let things end.”
If pressed, say, “Look, we started out as friends and went past that. To be friends, we’d have to go back, and frankly, I don’t want to go back. We need to go forward now.
That means we need to put some space between our broken relationship and any new relationship we might form. Let’s take a break, take some time, and give each other the space we need to heal and move on.
At some later point, when we meet again, we might be able to put our anger aside and be friendly. Let’s leave it at that.”
However, make this the last contact between you two. Make the break final with no further contact ever.
If there are mutual friends that are shared by the both of you, inform them of the breakup and also inform them that you will not appear at any functions that your ex-lover will be present at and if that means they have to choose sides, so be it.